Two very different ways of dealing with aging parents.

One, keeping them housebound to keep them safe. Another, making the arrangements for them to remain independent and lead the lives they want to lead.  

One, taking the decisions out of their hands. Another, nudging them along to take care of themselves, yet working with their wishes.  

One, harping on the fact that they aren’t doing what they’re told. Another, focusing on doing what you can to take care of the parent.   

The first is about control. The other is about respecting the parent’s space.